Expectation means the feeling that good things are going to happen in the future.What does the bible say about expectation- expectations can be high or low, reasonable or unreasonable, good or bad. The bible speaks of expectations of redemption.
If you expect too much, you will be frustrated. If you don't want to be frustrated, don't expect. Live without expectations and there will be no frustration.People go on expecting; then frustration comes in-frustration is the shadow of expectation. When you feel frustrated you think that existence is doing something wrong to you.Whatsoever happens in life think that its always good.You have no way to judge it.
One of my family friend,he is a businessman,settled in Bombay.Once I went to bombay to visit his family.He looks very sad I enquired what is the matter? He said, there has been a great loss. Listening to this,his wife started laughing.She said,don't bothered what he says.There has been no loss-in fact there has been a great profit.
I was surprised and said, you both are here, please try to explain this to me.His wife said, there is no loss. He was expecting a huge amount of profit from his new project ie one core and after settling all he got only 25 lakhs. So he says 75 lakhs loss, and I say you have profited-but he won't listen, and he is very sad.
When you expect one crore rupees and you get 25 lakhs you feel frustrated. If you are not expecting that much and you get 25 lakhs rupees you have full of joy,satisfaction,thankfulness and gratitude.
Frustration means:-The feeling of being annoyed or less confident because you cannot achieve what you want,or something that makes you feel like this.
Don't expect, and you see your whole life become a joy.Expect,and your whole life becomes a hell.Expectation is the cause. If you want to change,never start by the effect,start by the cause.Frustration is the effect.You can go on fighting with frustration-nothing will happen. Whenever you are feeling miserable,go in to it and find our where the cause is.If you wanted to drop the effect then avoid the cause; then become aware,more and more aware.
There are many people who enjoy frustration. There are many people who enjoy being miserable. In fact,they cannot tolerate happiness at all. When they are miserable they are happy,when they are happy they feel very miserable. Whenever you are miserable you gain something: sympathy,attention. Whenever you are happy nobody shows any sympathy-in fact,people become jealous. When you are unhappy everybody is a friend,everybody sympathise with you-even your enemy will sympathise with you. When you are happy even your friend will become jealous.
When you are happy nobody pays any attention to you. People avoid you. In fact,they start thinking you must be mad: Happy? Who has ever heard of anybody being happy! When you are unhappy they accept you.Then they think everything is okay,because this is how things have to be. And people enjoy your unhappiness,that's why they pay attention-because whenever you are unhappy they can compare themselves,and deep down they can feel good.
You love frustration? then go into it. Become more artistic about it, decorate it a little more; make new possibilities,new doors to become more frustrated. If you don't enjoy it,then I don't see the problem. Just go deep into it,watch and you will find some expectation hidden behind. Whenever you expect, you are asking for frustration. Drop expectations.
Expecting and Accepting are two sides of life. Where expecting ends in tears, accepting makes you cheer,Accept life the way it comes.
Help is a very expensive gift, so don't expect it from everyone, because very few people are Rich by Heart-Rest others only talk. Speaking without ego, loving without intention, caring without expectations and praying without selfishness are the sign of a true relation in friendship and in life.