Parenting is the most important job on the planet.Giving kids whatever they ask for is disastrous parenting. It is important that we discipline children a way that teaches them responsibility. We need to motivate our children internally, to build their self esteem and make them feel loved.If our children as disciplined in this respect, they will not feel the, a need to turn to drugs, gangs or sex to feel powerful, they obey parents and elders.
Prov.22:6 "Train your children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray." This is the best known parenting verse in the Bible. There is a clear cut correlation between the way you parent and the way your sons and daughters turn out as adults.
Your Child's self esteem is greatly influenced by the quality of time you spend with him.Now a days both the parents are working. With our busy lives, we are often thinking about the next thing that we have to do. If we don't give our child Genuine Encounter Moments,he or she will misbehave. Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored.
Statistics reveal that we give our children over 1000 commands. For example, if you have nagged your child about unrolling his socks that are unrolled. Action speaks louder than words.
Ways to help them feel powerful are to ask their advice, give them choices, cook a meal,help you in shop or whatever they can do it in small way.
Deut.6.6:-7 " Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart. Recite them to your children and talk about them when you are at home and when you are away, when you lie down and when you rise." Parents should talk about the word of God. It's not relegated to beside prayers or after dinner devotions.Be intentional about talking to your kids about the Bible.Study it with your kids, and bring it up throughout the day.
Ask yourself what would happen if I didn't interfere in this situation. If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions.
Children and Parents.Eph.6:1"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"-this is the first commandment with a promise."
Eph.6:4 " And, Fathers,do not provoke your children to anger,but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."
If your child is testing you through a temper tantrum, it is best if you leave the room or tell the child you will be in the next room if he wants to,try again.
Never tell a child he is bad. That tears at his self-esteem. Help your child to recognise that it isn't that you don't like him, but it is his behaviour that you are unwilling to tolerate.
Parent be kind and firm at the same time. Suppose you have told your 6 year old child that if she isn't dressed by the time the timer goes off, you will pick her up and take her to the car. She has been told she can either get dressed in the car or at school.Make sure that you are loving when you pick her up, yet firm by picking her up as soon as the timer goes off without any more nagging.
Keep the future in mind.Parent in a way that keeps in mind how we want our child to be as an adult. For example, if we spank our child, he will learn to use acts of aggression to get what he wants when he grows up.
At the same time there is a definite need for parents to establish a healthy relationship with your kids.If possible,visit the school early in the year to meet with your child's teacher and administrators or principal, keep in touch with them to find your child behaviour and how he/she perform in studies and other activities in the school. At least you find out who is his close friends and their behaviour.
Be consistent, follow through. Parents should explain their children how they brought up by your parents. How much struggle they face in their life to brought them up.They should also know the struggle you are facing in your day today life.Never think that your children should not struggle the way you struggled in life.If you have made an agreement that your child cannot buy candy when she gets to the store, do not give in to her unreasonable demands or pouting. Your child will learn to respect you more if you mean what you say.
You'll never be a hundred percent perfect parent, but you can be a praying parent. Prayer is your highest privilege as a parent. Prayer turns ordinary parents into prophets who shape the destinies of their children, grandchildren, and every generation that follows. Your prayers for your children are the greatest legacy you can leave.