In the beginning of our life journey,our self-love become the driving force for each of our actions,even if we choose to call them selfless.Love for the ego,or oneself,is the predominant feeling in every human being.It reflect in home,society and the work place and where ever we attached with.Unless this feeling differs away,real selflessness will not emerge. There is a story of an old lady planting mango trees.When her friend saw what she is doing,she said,"Do you think you will live long enough to taste the mangoes from those trees" No,I doubt it,replied by the old lady.Then why are you wasting your time?asked the friend.The old lady smiled and said,"All my life I have enjoyed eating mangoes from trees planted by others.This in my way of expressing my gratitude to the people who planted those trees".
If you choose love and selflessness as your goal,you need to be watchful.Watch your mind constantly,because the mind won't let you do anything selflessly. The mind doesn't want you to be selfless,Its only aim is to drive you down the path of selflessness,because the mind is selfish.As long as you dwell in the mind,you can only be selfish.You have to be free of the mind to be selfish.